New to the lifestyle and having a little trouble with the Lingo? Here's a list of terms and acronyms that you're likely to run into.

AC/DC- Bisexual individual, one who enjoys opposite-sex as well as same-sex encounters; also called bisexual or Bi
 
Adult- Euphemism for pornographic
 
Alternative Lifestyle - A general term used to describe social, sexual and emotional relationships outside of the conventional male-female long-term monogamous relationship model (See also: Polyamory and Swinging)
 
Anal - Euphemism for anal-penile intercourse (See also: Greek Culture)
 
Analingus - Oral stimulation or contact of the anus of one's partner
 
B&D- Bondage and Discipline or Bondage and Domination; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a master to his/her slave (See also: Bondage)
 
BBW - Big Beautiful Woman; a women who is not an ideal weight but is still very attractive
 
BD/SM - Bondage-Discipline and SadoMasochism
 
Bi-Curious - A person who is interested in trying same-sex activities Bisexual Same sex sexual activity (See also: AC/DC)
 
Bondage - A sexual fetish in which ropes, chains, cloth, leather straps, etc are used to bind, tie or hold one's participating sexual partner; the person doing the binding is considered dominant while the person being bound is considered submissive
 
Can Entertain - Willing to invite others to their home for swinging
 
Can Travel - Willing to travel to your home for swinging
 
Caning - A spanking fetish employing a light cane, usually bamboo or other light wood
 
Cheating - Sexual activity by a married or committed person with others outside the relationship without their spouse's/partner's knowledge or consent
 
Clean - Hygienic and/or free of sexually transmitted diseases
 
Closed Swinging - Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partners do not visually observe each other's sexual activity with another; rooms are usually close to each other, in the same house or motel
 
Closet Swinger - A person who hides the fact they are a swinger from friends, family and/or co-workers (See also: Discreet)
 
Couple-Centrist - The belief that the couple is the fundamental human sexual unit, and that all other relationship structures will gravitate towards the couple structure
 
CPL - Two people who are married, cohabiting, committed (in on-going relationship) or two singles dating for the purpose of swinging
 
Cunnilingus - Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth, especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (See also: French Culture)
 
D&D Free or DDF - Drug and Disease Free
 
Director - The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner
 
Discipline - A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant; often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner which ranges from mild spankings to painful beatings; may also inflict emotional punishment in the form of humiliation and degradation
 
Discreet / Discretion - Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that others who may open mail or answer phone calls will not be offended or be made aware of swinging activity
 
English Culture - Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning (See also: Caning)
 
Exhibitionist - A person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing sexual portions of their body or engaging in sexual activity
 
F - Female
 
Fellatio - Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially the tongue and lips and sometimes the teeth
 
Fetish - Sexual arousal and pleasure derived through the use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy
 
FF - Female-Female couple
 
Flagellation - Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking
 
French Culture - Oral-Genital sexual activity (See also: Fellatio and Cunnilingus)
 
Friendship First - A philosophy and practice that friendships are well established before any sexual interaction is initiated (See also: Utopian Swingers)
 
FS - Full service; euphemism for sexual intercourse
 
Full Swap - Full swap has no real sub-groups and is quite straight forward ~ It is wife-swapping for fucking, plain and simple. It is completely hardcore, the ultimate in sexual adventure, and not for the possessive or jealous. This can also include women who like to have two or more men servicing them at once in a gang-bang (if you’ve never watched a woman do DP in person, you’re really missing something), and can certainly include lots of girl-girl action. Full swap couples make up about 25% of all swingers, and if you ever find yourself in a full-swap encounter, leave your inhibitions at the door, strap-in, and get ready for a ride that you will never forget. While we all know that there’s nothing like a new sex partner, the trade off is that another guy gets to fuck your wife. So do a head-check and find out if watching your wife screaming in ecstasy while she takes another man’s cock to the hilt is on your list of fantasies.
 
In personal ads you’ll find a great many people that say, "we’re soft swing but will full-swap with the right couple". This is totally normal, because swingers know that the night and its rules can change when the vibe changes... leaving your options open doesn’t mean you can’t change them back later, so remember to stay open-minded and enjoy yourself.
 
Gay - Euphemism for homosexuality; generally refers to homosexual males (See also: Homosexual and Lesbian)
 
Girl-Girl ONLY - Two or more women play with each other in hot girl-girl action (just like the movies, and exactly like your fantasies), and their husbands either watch from the sidelines or participate only with their own wives. Most suited for this activity are bisexual women/bi-curious women and voyeuristic men.
 
Greek Culture - Anal-penile intercourse (See also: Anal)
 
Group Room - Refers to a room set aside for group sex, usually furnished with wall to wall mattresses or pads; also called matroom
 
Group Sex - Swinging; sexual activity involving three or more people (See also: Orgy and Roman Culture)
 
Growth Swinging - Social-sexual environment that promotes emotional, personal and social growth (See also: Polyamory)
 
Hardcore Swinging - A swing party or engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected
 
Hedonist - One who practices the doctrine that pleasure or happiness is the sole or chief good in life
 
Heterosexual - One who is sexually and emotionally attracted to members of the opposite sex (See also: Straight)
 
HJ - Hand job; stimulation of a partner's penis or clitoris with one's hand
 
Homosexual - One who is sexually and emotionally attracted to members of the same sex (See also: Gay and Lesbian)
 
Humanist - One who believes and practices the doctrine, attitude, or way of life centered on human interests or values; typically a philosophy that usually rejects supernaturalism and stresses an individual's dignity and worth and capacity for self-realization through reason
 
Indoor Sports - Euphemism for swinging activities
 
IR CPL - Interracial Couple
 
Kama Sutra - Sexual practice derived from an ancient text of the same name which has become one of the most widely read sex books in history; text describes sexual positions and love techniques believed to extend the duration of and increase the pleasure derived from a single session of lovemaking
 
Leather - A fetish practice involving sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments
 
Lesbian - Euphemism for homosexuality; refers specifically to homosexual females (See also: Homosexual)
 
M - Male
 
Masochism - A sexual practice characterized by pleasure in being subjected to pain or humiliation, especially by a love object
 
Menage a' Trios - Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging relationship which may involve an on-going emotional relationship between the participants
 
MF - Male-Female couple
 
MM - Male-Male couple
 
Monogamy - The practice of two individuals (or a group of individuals) restricting all sexual activity to one another for the duration of their relationship (See also: Polyfidelity)
 
Monogamy-Centrist - The prevailing belief in most cultures that monogamy is the only natural and moral sexual pattern
 
Moresomes - More than three people in a swinging interaction
 
MWC - Married white couple
 
N.A.S.C.A. - The North American Swing Club Association; an association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as a viable and beneficial lifestyle
 
Newbies - New people entering the swinging lifestyle for the first time
 
Nonjudgmental - A willingness to judge an activity or relationship on the basis of how well it works for the participants rather than external standards of right and wrong
 
Nonmonogamy - The practice of any sexual or relationship pattern outside of monogamy
 
Off-Premise - Concerning clubs or social events, the designation that sexual activity shall not take place on the premises
 
On-Premise - Concerning clubs or social events, the designation that consensual sexual activity may take place on the premises
 
Open Relationship - A relationship in which sexual and romantic connections are not limited to the two individuals in the relationship
 
Open Swinging - Two or more participating couples engaged in sexual activity in the same room; often associated with a swing party where participants socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party
 
Orgy - Sexual interaction among multiple consenting adults in the same room (See also: Roman Culture)
 
Party Clothes - Clothing particularly worn for a swing party which may include lingerie, robes, wrap-around towels and other simple wear that is easily removed; often makes selected body parts easily accessible for erotic courting and sexual arousal
 
Party House - A non-membership swing club which offers a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties
 
Polyamory - Generally used to refer to all forms of sexual relationships outside of monogamy; sometimes used more narrowly in reference to committed love relationships (thereby excluding swinging, casual sexual contact and other forms of intimacy)
 
Polyfidelity - A polyamorous relationship structure in which more than two people form a sexually exclusive group, sometimes used as a safer-sex strategy; the polyamorous interpretation of monogamy
 
Recreational Swinger - A person who practices swinging primarily as a recreational diversion with little or no desire for emotional attachments
 
Restraint - Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments
 
Roman Culture - Sexual interaction among multiple consenting adults in the same room (See also: Orgy and Group sex)
 
S&M - Sado-Masochism, the derivation of sexual pleasure from the infliction of physical or mental pain either on others or on oneself
 
Sadism - A sexual practice in which gratification is obtained by the infliction of physical or mental pain on a love object
 
Safe - Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy, a woman who has had a tubal ligation
 
Same Room - This is when a committed couple is in the same room with another couple, having sex with their own spouse while another couple either does the same or watches. Same room soft swingers get aroused by the mere presence of another set of eyes... watching and being watched.
 
They will, however, for the most part only play sexually with their own spouse. Even hardcore swingers (detailed below) usually start out in some sort of mild same-room scenario, and might spend years in this category before exploring further.
 
Sex-Negative - The belief that sex and sexuality is morally wrong and unnatural, often characterizing feminine sexuality as decadent and male sexuality as animalistic and dangerous
 
Sex-Positive - The belief that sex and sexuality is a healthy force in one's life; having an optimistic, open-minded, nonjudgmental attitude towards all forms of sexuality
 
SGL - Single
 
Single - A swinger without a partner; may be single or married
 
SO - Significant other; refers to one's partner
 
Social - A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine for swingers to meet and socialize, always off-premise
 
Soft Swingers - Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner (See also: Soft Swinging)
 
Soft Swing - This is usually a couple’s first few baby steps toward the lifestyle. Soft swingers themselves fall into three different categories themselves, and this is why communication is sooooo important when hooking up with a new couple for the first time. The three sub-groups play differently and when combined make up about 75% of the lifestyle’s patrons.
 
Soft Swinging - The practice that sexual interaction with partners outside of an established couple goes up, to but does not include, intercourse
 
Softcore Wife-Swapping – Women and men will switch sexual partners and play the day away, but there is no sexual intercourse. Activities include kissing, flirting, caressing, and oral sex. With this, there is still most often plenty of girl-girl action still going on, so the combinations are quite fun ?. Couples into softcore wife-swapping usually like the variety of new sexual partners, but prefer to save the intimacy of sex for each other.
 
STD - Sexually Transmitted Disease
 
STR or STR8 - Straight
 
Straight - Heterosexual, one who is not interested in same-sex activities
 
Sub - Submissive (See also: B&D)
 
Swapping - Euphemism for swinging; exchanging of one another's partners for sexual activity
 
Swedish Culture - Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another, similar to Tantra
 
SWF - Single white female
 
Swing Club - A club, generally with private membership, that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties; may also offer educational and travel activities; usually involves a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues
 
Swinging - An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational, sexual activities with others most often on a couple-couple basis with full knowledge and mutal consent of each person involved (See also: Recreational Swinger and Utopian Swinger)
 
Swinging Lifestyle - Style of living that incorporates swinging activities as a major component in social recreation, choice of friends, business contacts and intimate relationships
 
SWM - Single white male
 
Tantra - A sexual practice derived from one of the later Hindu or Buddhist scriptures dealing with meditative techniques and sexual rituals (See also: Tantric Massage)
 
Tantric Massage - Shortened term for "Tantric Sensual Rejuvination Massage", a massage practice using one's sexual energy which is believed to rejuvenate internal energy and free the organs of blocked emotions from past and present life
 
Threesome - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other engaging in sexual activity together; more casual than a "menage a' trios"
 
Ticket - An individual, typically a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable a man to gain entrance
 
Toys - Euphemism for devices used for sexual aid or increasing sexual pleasure such as dildos, vibrators, anal plugs, etc (See also: Vibrator)
 
Triad - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. (See also: Menage a' Trios)
 
Tubal Ligation - Surgical procedure involving the cutting and tying of the fallopian tubes to make a woman incapable of conceiving
 
Utopian Swinger - An individual who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals; one who seeks emotional intimacy with swinging partners for sexual fulfilment
 
Vasectomy - Surgical procedure involving the cutting and tying of the vas deferens to make a man incapable of impregnating a woman
 
Vibrator - Electrically run or battery operated vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding it to the outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the penis
 
Voluptuous - Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts and hips; may also refer to a full-figured woman (See also: BBW)
 
Voyeur - A person who enjoys and is sexually stimulated by watching others engaging in sexual activities
 
Voyeurism Sexual gratification derived from watching others engaged in sexual activity